Week 4-MICRO AGGRESSION EXPERIENCES

My micro aggression experience happened quite a few years ago. I was asked to help with the choir at church because they had a cantata engagement and the choir director was not able to assist. I decided to help, but I was not married at the time. I helped and everything came out more than what persons had expected. I married my long term friend and the father of my first child the following year. I decided that I would try and have my second child as soon as possible because I did not want any children in my thirties. Even though my husband objected I became pregnant. I was astonished when persons in the same choir that I helped so well made very insinuating remarks to my parents, myself and even wrote a letter to my father, that the only reason I married because I had become pregnant and so I needed to cover up for my sins. I found the entire situation really offensive but I made it pass because I knew the same people I helped were just being vindictive and wicked. The second mircro aggression happened this week when I decided to start looking around for secondary schools for my daughter. When I mentioned a particular school to my fried she simply looked at me and said ‘only students of certain sexual orientation attends this school.’ My step daughter attended this secondary school and I know she is not a lesbian.

WEEK 3- PERSPECTIVES ON DIVERSITY AND CULTURE

For this assignment I was asked to call at least three persons and to ask them to give a definition of culture and diversity. I decided to ask the following persons: My colleague, my eldest daughter and sister. These three persons are close to me. My colleague believes that culture is about our beliefs systems and the simple things in life that affect our lives every day and she believes diversity speaks to how unique an individual is. My colleague who is a very close friend works in the early childhood field as a sector support supervisor. She has to interact with many persons, including many of the external stakeholders. My colleague’s definition speaks to one of the main characteristic of what culture is. She mentioned that the nature of her job must take culture into perspective because in planning projects and workshops it is integral to understand the culture of families and practitioners. Although diversity is not a big issue in her job, she also believes that diversity must also be taken into consideration because the early childhood field is slowing changing in Jamaica. There are small evidences that diversity will soon be a factor to contend with in the future of early childhood. My sister is older than I am and she teaches and is a guidance counselor at very prominent Catholic high school. My sister believes culture relates not only to our way of life but to our value system. She also sees diversity as having a various persons who might share different cultures and religions. My sister says diversity is not prominent at her school but there is a small population of children from two particular ethnic groups present, that is, the Chinese and the Indians. She says it is important that as a teacher of religion she must be very mindful of the diverse groups in her class because they are small in numbers they become lost in the system. My sister also pointed out that although many of the children shared many common cultural attributes, the families from which these children came from had what we could refer to as a sub-culture and so it was sometimes difficult to get children to align their cultural beliefs and adopt to the belief system of the school because this high school is influenced by the Catholic faith. This simply means that the children had to conform to the belief system during their time at the school. My daughter was the youngest of the three persons I chose to ask about culture and diversity. My daughter has had her encounter with different cultures and diversity as early as her prep school years and so I thought it would be interesting to get her opinion about what she believed culture and diversity are. My daughter defined culture as the way we live our lives such as the traditions, the lifestyle such as fashion, food, trends and how we interact with each other. She sees diversity as very paradoxical; because even though we might be different in the way we look, our language and our heritage she believes we are so similar because our human nature is that need to want to have a feeling of belonging and to be loved. She believes that we all do things differently but most times it ends up with the same result. I learned from this experience that different persons have a different view of what culture and diversity are. It is also important that we learn to accept each other for who we really are and be open -minded and be willing to learn from each other. I also found my daughter’s reaction to diversity really different from my colleague’s and my sister’s because my daughter believes that no matter how different we are we are similar. Diversity and culture are very wide topic but I believe my daughter came the closest to incorporating many of the characteristics of culture and diversity.

PERSPECTIVES DIVERSITY & EQUITY- MY FAMILY CULTURE

This week I am asked to blog about three precious items I would take along with me and family if I was faced with a terrible catastrophe and had to leave my homeland. This is very hard because when I look at the few possessions I have acquired since my lifetime and what helps to define my culture and who I am is very heart rendering. After thinking about it I realized I would not be able to take my pets --Caine my cat and Benz my dog because they are far from being small items but I know I would be devastated to leave them behind because they are a big part of my family. The three items I would take with me are (1) a small family album. I would ensure that this album have pictures of every little thing that reminds me of my previous life such as pictures of my parents, brothers and sisters, wedding and birthdays and my pets, and other special events. (2) My bible is very important to me. My spiritual life is embedded in the bible and because I have special scriptures I use for prayer, this is definitely of great importance to me. (3) The third item I would take with me is my documents to identify who I am such as my passport, marriage certificate and birth papers. My family knows that these three items are very special not only to me but to them. The bible is important because our lives have always been embedded in strong Christian principles and these principles have always brought us through some very difficult times in our lives. The album is also very important because the pictures capture so many memories and we can always look at the pictures and be hopeful for a better tomorrow. The documents are also very important. To be evacuated to another country without any proof of who you are is very difficult and the documents would still give us hope that we might be able to go back to our country one day and having our travel documents would make the ease of passage much easier. For me to leave behind two items upon arrival would also be very stressful. But when you are faced with adversity you are not even given time to really think or rationalize; however, I would definitely keep the family album. The pictures cannot be reproduced but with time I can always get a new bible and regain documents to prove who I am and where I am from.